Moving a loved one diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia to a memory care community is an emotional decision that can be difficult and overwhelming for most families. It often happens when you notice significant changes in their behavior, safety, and daily functioning that raise concerns about their quality of life and overall well-being.
This blog offers tips on recognizing when memory care is appropriate, having conversations with your loved one and family members, and preparing for a smooth transition.
How Do I Know If My Loved One Is Ready for Memory Care?
Although each situation is different, here are common signs to watch for when determining the need for specialized memory care:
- Frequent confusion or disorientation – getting lost in familiar places or forgetting close family members and friends
- Wandering – leaving home without telling anyone, especially at night
- Decline in personal hygiene – unable to bathe, groom, and wear clean clothes regularly
- Difficulty managing tasks – struggling with cooking, paying bills, or taking medication correctly
- Unsafe behaviors – leaving the stove on or forgetting to lock doors
- Increased dependence on others – requiring support around-the-clock for daily activities, safety, and health needs
If you notice several of these signs in your loved one, it might be time to consider memory care options.
Related blog: What’s the difference between long-term care and memory care?
What’s the Best Approach to Conversations About Memory Care?
Talking about memory care can be challenging, especially if your loved one is resistant to the transition in care. One of the best ways to approach the discussion is with empathy, patience, and respect.
Try to choose a time that is convenient for everyone, free from distractions, in a calm, private setting. Remember to use a gentle tone that emphasizes safety, comfort, and quality of life rather than limitations. Involve your loved one in decisions as much as possible to help them feel included and to show that their thoughts and feelings matter.
Here are a few additional tips to keep in mind when discussing memory care:
- Use supportive body language, such as eye contact, nodding, and gentle touches, to help reassure your loved one
- Acknowledge your loved one’s feelings, including fear, anxiety, and sadness
- Reassure your loved one that they won’t be alone
- Share observations using specific examples when having a conversation with family
- Focus on facts and your loved one’s well-being
- Seek professional input, like a physician’s assessment, to help confirm the need for memory care
Have discussions gradually to give your loved one time to adjust to the idea. Carve out time to visit the memory care community together to ease anxiety and increase familiarity. Focus on the benefits of the transition, such as social connections, specially trained staff, intentional safety features and layouts, as well as personalized care.
How Can I Prepare for a Smooth Adjustment to Memory Care for My Loved One?
Preparing for a move to a memory care community can be a significant event for all involved, but there are ways to make it easier. Consider the following steps:
- Pack with intention – choose favorite blankets, familiar furniture, and meaningful photos and decor that make the new space feel like home
- Share their story with staff – share your loved one’s routines, preferences, and interests to personalize care
- Organize documents – ensure power of attorney, advance directives, and medical history documents are current
- Be there for your loved one – show up for your loved one before, during, and after the move
- Encourage participation – help your loved one find activities they may enjoy on the social calendar
- Check in regularly – monitor your loved one’s progress and address any questions or concerns with the staff
While the journey may be hard, the right memory care environment can provide a better quality of life for your loved one and peace of mind for family.
Explore Memory Care at Optalis and Cranberry Park Communities
Memory care at Optalis and Cranberry Park communities is specifically designed to provide a safe and supportive environment for older adults living with cognitive decline. Our specialized programming offers residents a variety of structured activities, a secure outdoor courtyard, a Music and Memory program, and more.
